Ramblings of How We Do it

Not to brag, but I have a great marriage!  I didn't get it right the first time around, and luckily neither did he.  So after our not so great first marriages, together we are still learning what makes a great marriage...there are disagreements, discussions and changes.  As we learn how to be better spouses, I think we are also learning to become better parents as well.  We want our kids to have a happy life.  We want to show them by example.  We don't sugar coat, but we try to keep things as positive as possible. 

The thing that I love about my husband is that because of him I still get butterflies, goosebumps and giddy at times.  He does that to me without even trying.  Marriage takes work, but love is effortless...when there is love, it's there. You don't have to force it, learn it or convince it.  It is something that brought two hearts together in a bond so tight you can feel the strength.  We can be in each others presence and not have to speak a word. I cannot think of anyone else better to grow old with.  He is truly my soul mate.

Not everyone can be as lucky as us!  And I say that with the utmost respect.  I hear friends, co worker and even strangers at the store bad mouthing and complaining about their spouses.  Of course you might need to vent once in a while, but just remember this...choose your words wisely. What you say can form someone's opinion of your spouse. Do you really want someone going around thinking your spouse is scum and your crazy for being with them?  I think those type of relationships are possibly doomed.   I am not saying you should never vent about things on your mind, but I am saying be careful with your words.  They can hurt...just think about it like this.  If the role was reversed, would you want to be spoken about that way?  It's a mutual respect, either you have it or you don't.  And respect is a BIG part of why our marriage works so well.   

Our Love Story Is My Favorite

I cannot say any better than that...my husband is the dream I have been waiting for.  He is the answer to my prayers after so many years of Mr. Wrong.  I love that I do not have to worry about loyalty, lies and losers.  It's kind of crazy, but even to this day, just thinking about my husband sets the butterflies loose in my stomach.  Yep, he's that wonderful! And mine!

Finding my husband backs up my saying, "You don't get what you want unless you work for it and earn it!"  I guess I finally earned it, because I can't imagine anyone better.  I have friends who have just never found the right guy, they complain about it all the time.  But when they have a guy, they bitch publicly about him.  They degrade him and speak too quickly when upset.  This might be why you don't have your soul mate...I, by no means kiss ass, take orders or become subservient.  I do however go out of my way often to make sure my husband feels my love.  To make sure he understands how happy he makes me and to get my point across that I am so grateful for having him in my life.  And there's nothing wrong with that.  I am not saying we don't have our moments, but when we do it is not broadcast across Facebook (or Blogger) or anywhere it should not be.  If there are problems at home, you start there to fix them.  When you over share and complain before you even try to solve...you deserve what you get. 

I am more happy than I have ever been and I intend to keep things that way.  My love story has no end, we are forever.  

All You Need Is Love (and a gift once in a while)

 My husband is a great guy!  He works hard to help provide for our family, he listen's to my long detailed stories, my hair brained ideas/opinions, he is a positive force in the lives of our kids and he is the best cuddler!  It's not unusual for my husband to make a late night run to fill my car up with gas, give a timely back rub, or a great unexpected hug...BUT he’s not Mr. Romantic!  I am confidant in his monogamous love for me, and I don't really need any big flashy gifts to have that proven.  BUT, the girly girl in me really wants the flowers, candy and dinner scenario once in a while.  

I realize that Valentine's day is just once a year and love can be shown at any time...but come on now!  It's marked out for a reason, it's the one time a year that all the gifts are all laid out for you, it's a no brainer!  Hell, they are even on sale!  Ease of purchase, lower cost, happiness all around!  Yes, flowers die.  But they look so pretty for a few days.  And candy is not healthy, but a little treat is nice.  

I did get flowers last year.  It was 3 roses in a very pretty ceramic pot.  I still have them, dried of course.  It was a start!  He has great potential to be a romantic I tell ya!  He has a heart as big as the world and a soft side he doesn't show often.  Somehow he got the idea that I didn't like flowers as gifts.  Whoa!!!!  I happen to LOVE flowers!  I just don't like them when given as make up gifts.  My ex did that, and I hated it!  He could be a total asshole and think a dozen roses would make him more tolerable, I DON'T THINK SO.  Flowers for special occasions are fabulous!  They lift a lady's spirit and excitement!  It makes them feel special to receive such a thoughtful gift.  Especially when the color is carefully chosen.  Sometimes you have to look beyond red guys!   

OK, I think I am starting to ramble here so I better just sum it up.  We don't have to have a gift on Valentine's Day, but it is nice!  Flowers on occasion are sweet, candy is always good.  Jewelry can be great too, and gives you a chance to put a lot of thought into it!   This however is not a great idea, very heartfelt and sweet, but not ideal...Just saying!  Happy Valentine's Day everyone!

Love is Patient, Love is Kind

This was part of the reading from our wedding...one of the most happiest days of my life.  My best friend became my husband.  I consider myself blessed to have him in my life, he makes me feel pretty special and very much loved.  I could not ask for more...

I Am Loved

This is exactly how I feel about my marriage...we make a great pair!

I can always count on him to be there for me and give me a reason to smile when it is hard to find one.  I am lucky, I am blessed, I am loved.

Love You Longer

There are no truer words to every say about my husband...I love my husband.