In A Few Words

I Adore, I love, have devotion, cherish, treasure and worship my husband...yes, I said worship.  Now stop rolling your eyes and let me explain.  Those are just a few words to describe how I feel about my husband and I am sure the last one will have a few of you ready to stop reading this blog, right...about...now!  But wait, do you truly know what it means?  Let me start with the first word:

Adore: to feel passion, devotion, or tenderness.  I feel those things and more for my husband.  How about you?  

Love:  a feeling of strong or constant regard for and dedication to someone.  Yep, again that describes my feelings.

Devotion: a feeling of strong or constant regard for and dedication to someone.  Are you seeing a pattern here?

Cherish: to feel passion, devotion, or tenderness...

Treasure: do I really need to define it?

Worship: to feel passion, devotion, or tenderness...

All of these things mean about the same thing.  But to me, it means that I love my husband very much!  I adore his smile and cute little expressions.  I love how he takes care of me and the kids.  I am devoted to him and him alone.  I cherish our life together and look forward to growing old with him.  I treasure what we have created and hope that we can be role models for our children.  And I worship the ground he walks on.                                        

                                                          

Now that does not mean that I am bowing down in his presence or adorning the ground upon which he steps with freshly picked flowers.  I am not waiting with bated breath for his permission to so much as speak.  I do however hang on his words, often looking at him in a loving manner, go above and beyond when I can to do nice things for him and check him out as much as possible.  Now does he expect this?  Nope.  Does he like it?  Well, I guess so.  He isn't complaining! :)  

Now looking back at the meanings of those words above, do you notice a word they all have in common?  Its the word "feel".  And no one can tell another how to feel.  That means that no one can tell you who and or how to adore, love, devote, cherish, treasure or worship!  So, for those who think it is wrong to worship your husband, bite me.  Its my feelings, not yours.  

And a few words to those who rolled their eyes to any of this, how happy is your marriage?  Can you laugh and have fun anywhere?  Would your husband do whatever it takes to make you smile on a bad day?  Would he be there for you in your time of need when everyone else has turned their backs?  Would be wait on you hand and foot if you were not feeling well and help nurture you back to health? Would he love you endlessly for the rest of all time?  Now would you do all of that for him?  If you wouldn't, why should he?  

It's not about being selfish, marriage makes you a team.   You get out of it what you put in to it...and there is nothing wrong with being nice!  So, next time you get upset with your husband over the way he is treating you, if you are not doing much for him, why should he worship, treasure, cherish you?  I am not saying it's an "eye for an eye" type of thing, but go above and beyond and see what you get back.  I have done that and I have gotten a wonderful life in return.