Don't Poop With The Door Open

Everyone has read articles on "how to" have a great relationship, but I thought I would change it up a little.  How about tell you things that you NOT do?  Take it or leave it, but here it is...read on:

DO NOT ever miss the opportunity to say I love you.  These three words carry more power and meaning than any other three words in the world.  One of my favorite sayings is this: When I tell you I love you, I don't say it out of habit, or to start a conversation.  I say it to remind you that you're the best thing that ever happened to me.  I don't know about you, but I feel those words can do so much.  They can cheer someone up when they are feeling down, they can lift their spirits higher and confirm that is truly is a great day.  They can make someone feel at peace with the world...all of that from three little words.  

                                              

DO NOT stop having fun with one another.  All of the silly little things you did together in the beginning, keep it going!!!!  Be it silly faces, corny jokes and imitating for a laugh...DO IT!  There is a wonderful thing that happens when you laugh, endorphins are released and pleasure follows...I wasn't going "there", but whatever, you want the happy feelings...lol. 

DO NOT think you are smarter than your spouse.  Know-it-all people are annoying.  We are all guilty from time to time, but their is a difference between occasionally knowing you are right and being down right arrogant about most things.  Confidence is a great thing, but NEVER ever let it get in the way of your relationship.  It is OK to know the right answer and not correct someone all the time.  Its even OK, (GASP!) to be wrong once in a while.  After all, whatever the issue may be, is it really worth an argument?

DO NOT put your spouse down to others.  Even if it is just a little rant to your friends or coworkers.  I don't remember the exact number, but the saying goes something like this:  For every negative/bad thing you say it takes 10 positive/good things to cancel it out.  So if you are ranting to others about your spouse and never saying much about the nice stuff, their image of your spouse is tarnished.  If and when you do say good, they are less likely to believe it.  Then you will get upset with that person when they say something about your spouse.  Its a vicious circle, just do yourself a favor and NEVER do it!  Also, if there is a huge need to "bitch" about your spouse, there might be a problem there and your relationship is way beyond my blog.  Just sayin'...

DO NOT stop holding hands!  Its a small way to say you care, to feel special, to feel close. It take little effort but yet says so much.  It's not a childish thing that you grow out of and it's very endearing to have that contact.  It kind makes me lighter on feet and makes me feel a little tingly when my husband reaches for my hand.  I instantly get the urge to lean into him a little, for the extra closeness.  That little token of love goes a long way.

DO NOT stop doing nice things for each other, OFTEN!  I am not talking about how a man should buy his wife flowers and jewelry monthly, (but its OK if he did, lol), but just give them little ideas of how much you appreciate them. It can be a gas station rose, replace the air freshener in the car, help with the dishes, sweep up the garage.  It doesn't have to cost a thing, just do something!  I like to throw little notes in my husband's lunch, maybe make his breakfast once in a while if I have a few minutes, rub and or scratch his back while we are hugging goodbye in the morning before work.  It's the little things.

And last, but CERTAINLY not least......................

DO NOT Poop with the bathroom door open!  Under no circumstances is this every a good thing.  The occasional emergency when you have to pass some toilet paper or they are very very sick MIGHT pass for an excuse, but other than that...Yuck!  It's sometimes bad enough that you have to be in there yourself, and sometimes it's bad enough when the smell seeps out into the house.  But why in the hell would you want to be there while someone is pooping!   I don't know about you, but I have a bad enough self image of myself after having three kids.  I don't need to tarnish the image of me naked by husband seeing me sitting on a toilet "assuming" the position.  It's wrong.  Don't do it. Ever. 

We all know the "sittin' on the toilet" lady

That being said, I would love to hear some other ideas from you.  Yes, you!  The one reading this blog.  I know that there are some out there, I have over 5000 hits so someone is reading.  Share your ideas, what would be on your DO NOT list.  Until next time...

The Normal Family?

Normal, you see that word everywhere.  What exactly is normal? Well let's just Google it! Normal: conforming to a standard; usual; typical or expected; ordinary.  Where's the fun in that?  We are anything but normal, and we like it!    


Sure, we know how to behave in public when needed.  Heck we can even be prim and proper when the situation calls for it.  That is why I like to think of us as more like a versatile family, we fit that description much better!  Versatile: capable of doing many things competently; able to adapt; changeable; and better yet, INCONSISTENT!  Yeah, that is us!  And its not as bad as it sounds! It just means we can fit in anywhere, to what degree depends on us.  It is one of the things that keeps our marriage fresh!

 






                                                                                                              








Being able to adapt to different situations and occasions leaves our options more open to have fun together.   We are not limited and honestly I enjoy that.  Social class, age, music genre, it doesn't matter...we can make it work.  I don't understand those who limit their selves to so few things.  You have to push that threshold and step out of your comfort zone in order to really live!  Our lives will never be dull!  

We recently joined a gym and started working out.  That broadened our scope a little.  A gym is actually a very interesting place, filled with people of all shapes, sizes, colors and backgrounds.  What ties them together is the reason that brought them all there in the first place, to get healthy.  The gym is the perfect example of what our marriage is.  My husband and I have many things in common and at the same time we can be very different.  Our common goal that brought us together, well to be honest at first, lust, lol...then love.  And being a versatile family is keeping it new and refreshing.  Step out into the world, live a little and learn a lot!  Until next time...